Giving a baby a bottle is so nice. You hold this little bundle of warmth and softness as you fatten him up with milk. It’s a peaceful, happy time. At least, that’s the goal.
I nursed Luke when he was a baby, and he also got one bottle every day from Zach. I went back to work at 12 weeks, and he had bottles while I was gone. He wasn’t thrilled about bottles but he took them.
With Ben, he had mostly bottles of pumped milk while he was in the NICU. After he came home, he completely refused bottles and was obsessed with nursing.
With a third baby on the way, I thought how nice it would be to have all those extra hands available to give the baby a bottle. Luke was so excited to feed a baby again and I was pretty sure that Ben would enjoy it too. I was determined to use all the bottles that had lain unused, ever since Ben decided that bottles were evil.
Unfortunately, Luke has only been able to give Meghan a bottle once. One time, no more.
When she was a few weeks old, Meg would grudgingly accept a partial feeding in a bottle from Zach. We had just reached the point where she would take a full bottle feeding, and then Zach started traveling for work. While he was gone, she got nothing but the breast, and when he returned, she completely refused bottles.
We tried and tried for weeks. At this point, she has won the battle. No bottles for Meg.
She has two methods of resistance.
Method 1: Meghan’s jaw goes completely slack, and the milk simply dribbles out her mouth. She gazes stubbornly at the person holding the bottle, and I’m pretty sure she can tell when victory is at hand. She can do this for 20+ minutes. At that point, Zach is usually done trying.
Method 2: Screaming.
Both methods are effective.
I don’t mind nursing, but it would be nice to know we have the option to give her a bottle. In the back of my head, I am still remembering the awful stretch when Ben started teething at 7 months and completely quit nursing. Because he still wouldn’t take a bottle, we had to syringe feed him for 5 days until he learned to drink from a cup. I would rather not experience that again.
Hopefully Zach will be traveling less at some point, and we can try bottles again. Until then, Meghan gets her way.